What I have learned- it is a choice you make everyday of who you want to be, who you want to be it with, where you want to be at, and how you want to be it. It means appreciating what has happened in your life to bring you to this point. And letting go of it. It means being willing to commit with no guarantees. It means knowing and accepting reality- you might just get the fantasy you have always dreamed of or you might not-- but knowing it is my choice is invaluable.